Self image is often talked about in the media. What it means and how to get it, and why we don’t have it.
The conventional way of finding our self image seems to always points us to ourselves with quotes such as:
To the question of your life, you are the only answer, and to the problem of your life, you are the only solution ~ Jo Coudert
I do not live for what the world thinks of me, but for what I think of myself. ~Epicurious
But this creates too much self centeredness in our world.
According to Scientific American:
It turns out that having self-esteem, as a fairly stable personality trait, does have a few modest benefits. High self-esteem also has drawbacks, however, and is mostly irrelevant for success. Further the pursuit of self-esteem is clearly detrimental to well-being. When people chase after a stronger sense of self-worth, it becomes their ultimate goal, leading them to sacrifice other aspirations, such as learning or doing what is good for others.
I believe the proper task of having self-esteem, one that helps us choose clothing well, starts internally. With our values, beliefs and view of God.
And, I’m not coming at this thing called image or “self image” in order to build myself up, or to create a more wonderful, intriguing me.
When I build myself up, what I am building up is a false self.
All the advertising that promotes:
You are amazing just the way you are!
disregards being alive, growing and giving.
The truth is, I don’t know how to be a self — all by myself. I need to live God in me. I need God in me to live. To help me see what my self image should look like.
We spend a lot of time, energy and money trying to create our image by standards that conflict with Scripture.
But what if our image isn’t something we create, or the world creates, but God creates it, and it’s our job, and our journey to discover what that looks like, as best as we can, by unearthing the Scriptures that support a healthy self image and self-esteem.
To start, I’d explore our identity as God’s image-bearers.
Our job in this lifetime is not to shape ourselves into some ideal we imagine we ought to be, but to find out who we already are and become it. ~ Steven Pressfield